Please MeMistress Vanessa Vane



Psychological Submission 
& Altered States


I create experiences without substances that gradually shift your perception of time, self, and control.

Hypnosis, sensory deprivation, anticipation, repetition, and carefully composed uncertainty become ways of loosening the structures through which we ordinarily experience ourselves. Familiar patterns begin to soften. Time stretches. The smallest change in sensation or atmosphere can begin to reorganise your experience.

I am fascinated by altered states because they create a liminal space where play becomes possible. Within that space we are no longer confined to habitual ways of thinking, feeling, or relating. Something new can emerge.

Psychological disorientation, emotional sadism, surreal scenarios, trance, and the gradual erosion of composure are all different ways of entering this process. I am interested in what becomes possible once certainty begins to loosen.

Creative pain & sadism



My sadism is joyful, intuitive, and deeply erotic. I smile easily. I laugh often. I delight in watching people become more alive.

I work with impact, pressure, needles, kicking, trampling, face slapping, CBT, heat, electrical play, and other forms of carefully calibrated pain. Every sensation is shaped through observation, curiosity, and the person in front of me.

I may frustrate you, overwhelm you, confuse you, make you laugh, make you ache, or leave you suspended in anticipation. I build from moments of connection, scripts cannot initiate these experiences.  Although I also love to create roleplay senarios that fit perfectly into a sadistic game

I enjoy the moment struggle changes character and resistance begins to merge with desire. That is where play becomes transformative, and where my sadism feels most alive.
Kimbaku  &  Predicament

As the ties develop. Stillness becomes active. A shift of weight, a held breath, a moment of impatience can completely transform the experience.

Within Yukimura-style shibari there is a beautiful progression from connection, to challenge, to release. I work with this rhythm because it allows the emotional landscape of the session to unfold gradually.

Predicament bondage extends this dialogue. Rather than simply restraining you, the rope invites you into a game of choices, endurance, curiosity, and surrender. Balance shifts.

The body begins to negotiate with itself. Every movement changes the experience. Surrender develops through participation rather than passivity.

The process of being bound is a liminal space where vulnerability, creativity, intimacy, and transformation can unfold together.

Shibari /Psychological submission training / Needle Play / CBT / NS / Tease & Denial / Chastity / Abduction scenarios / Bondage / Sensory deprivation  / Anal Training / Strap-on / Deep-throat Training / Dominant GV / Dominant OV / Ball Busting / Pet Play / Physical Humiliation / Psychological Humiliation / Medical Inspection / Feminisation / Slut training / Face-sitting / Foot Worship / Heel / Boot Worship / Forced bi / Ruined Orgasms / Torture / Spanking / Cuckolding / Milking / Urethra play / Face slapping / Spitting / Sissyplay / Nylons / Latex / Leather / Trampling / Public Play (for long term connections) / Dirty games / Electrical play / Duo domination / Impact play / Catheter Play / Couples / Beginners / Experienced